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Writer's pictureRuth Dewar

When I Get That Feeling, I Want Sexual Healing...

Perimenopause, also known as the menopausal transition, is a natural phase in a woman's life that marks the gradual decline of reproductive function and the onset of menopause. During this period, which can last anywhere from a few months to several years, women experience hormonal fluctuations that can have various effects on their bodies, including changes in sexual function. In this blog, we will explore the decline in female sexual function during peri-menopause and discuss the physical, hormonal, and psychological factors that contribute to these changes.

Understanding Peri-menopause:

Peri-menopause typically begins in a woman's 40s, although it can occur earlier or later for some individuals. It is characteriSed by irregular menstrual cycles, fluctuating hormone levels, and a range of physical and emotional symptoms. Oestrogen and progesterone, the primary female sex hormones, undergo significant changes during this time, leading to various physiological adjustments in the body.

Effects on Sexual Function:

  1. Vaginal Dryness and Atrophy: One of the most common changes women experience during peri-menopause is a decrease in natural lubrication and vaginal elasticity. Declining oestrogen levels can cause thinning and drying of the vaginal tissues, leading to discomfort or pain during sexual activity. This may result in decreased libido and a reluctance to engage in sexual intercourse.

  2. Decreased Libido: Fluctuations in hormone levels can also contribute to a decreased sex drive or libido. Oestrogen, in particular, plays a significant role in maintaining sexual desire, and its decline during peri-menopause can lead to a diminished interest in sexual activities. Psychological factors, such as mood changes and stress, can further compound the decrease in libido.

  3. Changes in Sexual Response: Peri-menopause can affect a woman's sexual response cycle, including arousal, orgasm, and resolution. Some women may find it more challenging to become sexually aroused or experience decreased intensity or frequency of orgasms. These changes can be attributed to hormonal imbalances, decreased blood flow to the genital area, and alterations in the sensitivity of nerve endings.

  4. Mood and Psychological Factors: The hormonal fluctuations associated with peri-menopause can also impact a woman's mood and overall psychological well-being, which, in turn, affect sexual function. Mood swings, anxiety, depression, and fatigue can all contribute to a decline in sexual desire and pleasure. Additionally, body image concerns or negative feelings about the physical changes occurring during this phase may further impact sexual self-esteem and confidence.

Managing and Overcoming Challenges:

While the decline in female sexual function during perimenopause can be frustrating and challenging, it is essential to remember that it is a natural part of the aging process. There are various strategies and interventions that can help manage and overcome these challenges:

  1. OPEN COMMUNICATION: Discussing concerns and experiences with a partner, best friend, or healthcare provider is crucial. Open communication can foster understanding and support, leading to potential solutions and adjustments in sexual activities.

  2. SEXUAL EXPERIMENTATION - We are much more relaxed when we have fun. Introducing toys (on your own or with your partner) might just relight that fire

  3. LUBRICANTS: Using water-based lubricants during sexual activity can alleviate discomfort caused by vaginal dryness. Regular use of vaginal moisturisers can also help maintain vaginal health and elasticity.

  4. HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY (HRT): For women experiencing severe symptoms, hormone replacement therapy may be considered. Oestrogen therapy, available in different forms (pills, patches, creams), can help alleviate vaginal dryness and improve overall sexual function. However, the decision to pursue HRT should be made after careful consideration and consultation with a healthcare professional, as it carries potential risks and benefits.

  5. PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPORT: Seeking support from a therapist or counsellor can be beneficial in addressing the emotional and psychological factors impacting sexual function. Therapy can provide coping mechanisms for mood swings, anxiety, and body image

I have to admit, stepping into middle age and owning this chapter is liberating. By reintroducing some fun back into my non existent sex life, I have to say I feel great. (And definitely less frustrated)


So many of our female client's are experiencing lack of sexual desire and function... so we thought who would step up our game and collaborate with Good Vibrations UK. (Elite adult toy supplier for women)


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